What I would say to you if only I could...
Friday, January 7, 2011
What I would say to you personally if there were no repercussions from you toward other people...
General Interactions. You are mean and selfish and I do not like you. You have been rude and disgusting for years and you make me sick on the way you treat people. You are not the catch you seem to think you are. I find the way you think you are entitled to everything to be so childish. It is almost as if you are mentally handicap and beyond reasoning and self-reflection. I truly believe that there is something mentally wrong with you in the fact that you can be so oblivious to the effect you have on other people. I would think it would be obvious that the room changes when you are around. People previously laughing and enjoying the time become morose and irritated over nothing in particular.
Motherhood. Being a mother is more than popping out a baby. How can one sit on their butt all day, dirty dishes and generally mess up the area around them and then feel perfectly fine with making their children clean up after them when they get home from school. YOU ARE HOME ALL DAY, GET OFF YOUR BIG REAR-END AND DO IT YOURSELF!!
Respect. Get some for your self. Get some for the people taking care of you. As a strong woman, it makes me sick to see a week one taking advantage of people and crying victim. For once in your life, get a backbone and stand up. You make me sick. I find the fact that you can mooch off of other people disgusting. But what is more disgusting is the fact that you are teaching your children to do the same thing. They are as lazy and disrespectful as you are. Way to be a great parent.
Integrity. You have none. You lie without a conscious. You take money from someone and when you don't spend if for that purpose, you keep it. Technically that is stealing. You disgust me. See the respect statement above. I find it so sad that when asked of the people that actually do care about you whether or not you could really be trusted, they say No. When push comes to shove, it is obvious that you would throw anyone under the bus if it serves you in some way. That I find sad. And once more, you are teaching your children these same qualities. So very sad.
Entitlement. For some reason, you think you are entitled to things you didn't work for. You are not entitled to do as you please with money you didn't make just because you live there. You are not entitled to use the electricity in a limitless fashion just because you live there. You are not entitled to dictate the rules or object when someone else is paying the bills. You are not entitled to let your children talk disrespectfully to other people just because they do not respect you. Maybe, just maybe, you should shut-up and say thank you to the people that work all day to make money to support you. Maybe if you had learned the value of working hard and naturally from that the value of a dollar, you would somehow understand what it means to work hard for something, anything...then maybe you would understand just a little.
Family. You are family, but wouldn't be if I had a choice. I do not like you. I am saddened at the way you treat other people and angered at the way you disrespectfully treat those that are supporting you 100% percent.
Advice. Grow up. If not for the sake of you finally becoming something, then do if for your children that are becoming miniature versions of you. Please don't let your children become something that everyone else has to take care of too. Please!
posted by Sonya @ 1/07/2011 05:39:00 PM, ,
Family
I find it sad that sometimes you just do not have a choice in the people that you must tolerate.
I find it sad that you must be friendly with people that drive you to the point of insanity.
These people, ones who change the dynamics of a room just by breathing in the said room.
I find it sad for me that I must endure people who are so selfish and self-involved that they cannot realize that they ruin the days of others just by being around.
As you must have figured out, someone in my family annoys the crap out of me.
Labels: Family
posted by Sonya @ 1/07/2011 05:35:00 PM, ,
Why we need more women leaders...
This is a must watch for all women...Why we need more women leaders.
Inspiring.
posted by Sonya @ 1/07/2011 05:09:00 PM, ,
Another disadvantage for women
I read an interesting article, “Regrets of a stay at home Mom” and found myself sympathizing with someone I never would have expected to sympathize with. I have always been and probably always will be a strong supporter of women. Although, I must confess that I subconsciously separate women into two categories: women with children and women without. This is only because of my lack of children and my lack of ability to understand or sympathize with women who do have children. While unfair to categorize, I think I do this mainly because I chose a life without them and enjoy my life how it is. When they say it is different when they are your own, I hesitate to believe that. What if it isn’t? Can I give it back? Thus, I am more times than not unsympathetic to women with children. I find almost all children extremely annoying and somehow these children are always sticky. This I do not understand.
But I digress. More importantly to the topic, I think there is another disadvantage that women have to face. Here is another consequence of being a woman and trying to be equal only this time they are also falling short of other women who have never had children.
The article was written by a woman who is recently divorced and has two teenagers. Her narrative describes her panic of not being able to get back in the workforce after being a stay at home mom for so many years. I find myself going back to the same line over and over again: “Now my ex, still a reporter, is making $30,000 a year more than that (being there same salary years before), while I have been passed over for jobs paying $20,000 less.” She explains how there are a lack of jobs out there and how a woman that has been out of the workforce so long has even more odds against her.
We all know that women make less money than men. We know that women get promotions at a lower rate and are often for less money even when offered. But now women who are mothers are at an even greater disadvantage to the lower paying jobs than the women who are not mothers. We knew that there has always been a bias to women within child bearing age due to the fact that many of them need a few weeks to take care of a new born baby, but it seems that even when the children can drive themselves to college, there still is that bias toward these women.
The point I am making is that I think only a woman can understand what it feels like to know you are given less credit for saying the same thing a man says AND you have to prove yourself first. It is often that respect is automatically given to a man while a woman has to earn it. But now, while already having to take two steps for every one male step, women having children have to take three steps to keep up.
I cannot imagine what it feels like to be a single parent, with limited funds, little to no chance of finding a job that can pay the bills and no foreseeable solution to fix the problem. And all due to the fact that you stayed at home to care for your children while your spouse worked. But now that you are divorced, life carries on fine for the spouse while you are quickly going up creek without a paddle.
All I can say is that this makes me sad.
posted by Sonya @ 1/07/2011 03:25:00 PM, ,
